Why I'm a Solitary Witch

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I’ve been Pagan in some shape or form for most of my life (which I can say now as I’m older than 26... yikes!). I’ve been to rituals hosted by individuals and by covens, events sponsored by various Pagan groups, and learning opportunities within the community. I’ve loved meeting new friends through these events, and am eagerly awaiting the moment when I have a few free evenings to spend with them again and things to which we can bring our son.

But for all these things I’ve participated in, I’ve never, ever been part of a coven.

I’ve considered it many times, even fantasized about it, especially when I’ve been welcomed to join a coven. How wonderful would it be to have a group of like-minded individuals, celebrating the Sabbats and Esbats and rituals and life events! Not to mention what amount of knowledge I could gain from the other individuals, many of whom come from very different paths from my own and could teach me a wealth of information. They’d be my brothers and sisters on my path.

Honestly, though... it hasn’t worked out. And it’s never been them; it’s been me.

I’m not the kind of witch who does well within the constraints of a group, and notably within a coven. I have no formal creed, no specific deities, no branch of faith that binds me to others. Answering to a High Priest or High Priestess would be, in a way, too confining for my spirituality and personal growth as a Pagan.

I also wouldn’t want to be that person to lead a coven or other such group. Have I considered it? Absolutely! I’ve hosted a few rituals (and loved it!) and have had in-depth conversations with witches who have asked me to start a group, one they would willingly join and invite others to. It’s crossed my mind more than once.

I will happily join others in celebrating the turns of the seasons and the rites that honor ourselves and the gods. But I admit that I’m happily spoiled right now to my individual brand of spirituality, one that finds serenity in a walk illuminated by the light of the moon, finds myself in a circle cast alone and a candle lit for meditation. My relationship with Spirit is, as of right now, one of individuality.

Whether that be a result of circumstance – after all, it’s pretty difficult to be involved with a busy group when you’re raising a toddler! – or personal preference, I’m not sure. Maybe a bit of both. And will this change in the future, especially if I find or create a group that welcomes those who may not toe the coven’s line? If that’s where my path leads me, then it just may!

I’d love to find a group that welcomes open discourse, stimulating conversation, and discussion groups that sometimes fall way off topic (let’s face it, that stuff really happens), as well as insightful and inspiring ritual. And if it could remain drama-free, even better, though I’ve learned in my 15-odd years of Paganism and almost 30 years of life that asking that much is often times difficult. :)

For now, as I’ve yet to find that cohesive... something that is needed for my soul for a successful circle, I’ll remain a happy solitary. And will keep my heart open to the possibilities!